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I had a lovely non-date date with an old high school buddy yesterday. We chilled over a cup of iced tea and talked about work, life and girls. The girls’ topic is where it gets interesting for me, as I love to get the male perspective on these sorts of things. Carlo is a really great guy, yet single but no girl will mingle… fast forward to a conversation with my girl friends, where it was clearly stated that there is a shortage of good men in the city of Toronto. Is this actually true, or are we just too picky?

I have dated my share of interesting personalities, so I can tell you that it is true, they are out there (the bad boys). At the same time I can also tell I’ve seen my friends fall in love with some good men, so I know they are also out there. I think the problem lies in our perspective. We have all these long lists of things we want in a man, but we need to learn how to differentiate the wants from the needs. You want someone that is 6ft tall, rich and listens to classic rock, and quickly disregard any guy that does not fit the profile. Well those are things that you want. What about the things that you need? Like a man that is thoughtful, supportive, kind, makes you laugh, is hard working (a hard working man will eventually be rich according to my mom) … I could go on. You get the point.

Obviously you need someone that you have crazy chemistry with, but if you give yourself the chance to get to know someone you might be surprised at the chemistry that develops. If it doesn’t work out, it doesn’t work out, but I’ve always believed that good men are worth giving the benefit of the doubt.

Oh! and just a little video to make you smile on a Thursday afternoon….


What are your wants? What are your needs? Am I totally deluded?