Last year, my lovely roommate decided to turn my apartment into a pumpkin patch. I arrived home after a long day at work and as I opened my door I was surprised and thought, this must be a dream. Yes, there were pumpkins greeting me every step of the way as I proceed to my bedroom for a pumpkin break. There were pumpkins in the living room, there were pumpkins in the dinning room and, wait, and there were pumpkins in the bathroom. I had been officially invaded. I don't mind a pumpkin here or there, but this was just too much for a girl to take. So I did the only thing that seemed logical at the time. I went into my room and called my mother. Then I called my friend, then my sister...I talked to anyone except for her. I did not know how to tell my rommie (who is a lovely person by the way) what I wanted. I didn't sleep that night.
The thing about keeping things to yourself is that the feelings only get worse with time. You might start blowing things out of proportion. Worse, you start building resentment. So having lived through this and many other conflicting situations I have come up with 5 simple steps to keeping your cool and being assertive.
TIPS EVERY GIRL SHOULD KNOW FOR BEING ASSERTIVE
1- Take a deep breath and give yourself a moment to cool down and put things into perspective.
2- Pick your battles. Is this thing worth the fight? If it is then stand up for yourself! If it’s not, just let it go....
3- Do not blame anyone, do not judge anyone. When you are having a "talk" its best to stick to facts and if you see fit, your point of view. No one can argue that facts are not true, and no one can tell you what you feel.
4- Be calm and composed when communicating. The person that looses their temper looses control.
5- End up thanking the person for their cooperation and their understanding. Give them a smile (only if it feels genuine)
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Did she plan on making pies? Or was she really into Halloween??
no just a lover og the holiday :)